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The Family: An Antidote to Tyranny

There are basically three options for a society. One option is tyranny. This option is not a pleasant one. In a tyranny, the people are oppressed by an overly powerful government.

A second option is anarchy. The word anarchy basically means “no ruler” or “no government.” The problem with anarchy is that it leads to tyranny. When everyone can do whatever they want, some people will want to oppress others. Those who are bigger, stronger, or smarter will begin to use and abuse others. So really, option one and two eventually lead to the same dark place.

The third option is a biblical society. God knows what the perfect balance of rules and liberty is. He knows human nature, and He knows how society functions best. Thankfully, He shared this knowledge with us in the Bible.

A well-ordered society is made up of individuals, families, local churches, and civil governments. God has given roles and responsibilities to each of these. All of these institutions are important, and all of them were ordained by God.

While we can’t say that the family is the only important institution, it is clear from Scripture that the family is foundational to society. The family goes all the way back to Genesis chapter 2 (even chapter 1 hints at it; see 1:26-28).

So it should not surprise us that the Bible teaches that the family is of extreme importance. But many may not realize that the antidote to both anarchy and tyranny is godly families.

Adam & Eve’s task was to “have dominion” (Gen. 1:28). Dominion isn’t oppression, but rather management and stewardship. They were to build a godly civilization. After sin came into the world, they were also engaged in a fight (Gen. 3:15). This fight was between the godly line and the ungodly line of humanity.

Soon, the ungodly line strikes out against the godly line as Cain kills Abel. Murder, a tool of tyrants, is introduced into the world (Gen. 4:8). Soon, other immorality is introduced (Gen. 4:19). Moral anarchy and tyranny go hand in hand.

After depicting the sorry state of society, the Bible then zooms in and focuses on a family. The picture shifts from the turmoil of the larger society to the smallest institution in society: the family (a man, his wife, and their children; Gen. 4:25).

A while later, society has grown even more corrupt (Gen. 6:5, 11). After depicting the corruption in the larger society, the Bible again zooms in and focuses on a family (Noah, his wife, and their children; Gen. 6:18).

After the flood, humanity again becomes corrupt. A tyrant named Nimrod begins to unite humanity against God and His people (Gen. 10:8-10; 11:1-6). The Lord puts a stop to their plan (Gen. 11:8-9), but that isn’t the end of the story. The Bible again focuses on a man, his wife, and their child (that they will have; Gen. 11:29-30; 12:7). Do you see a pattern?

Oh, but wait, there’s more!

In Exodus 1:8-16, a tyrant is oppressing the Hebrews. As tyrants love to do, he is attacking the family (Exo. 1:16). After describing this horrible tyranny, the story then focuses on a man who gets married and starts a family (Exo. 2:1-2).

During the time of the Judges, God’s people often went from being oppressed by tyrants (often foreign ones; Judg. 3:12-14; 4:1-3; etc.) to anarchy (Judg. 21:25). In the midst of all this societal turmoil, the Bible again zooms in to focus on a man, his wife, and their child (as in the story of Samson; Judg. 13:1-3).

The book of Ruth also takes place during the time of the Judges (Ruth 1:1). But the focus of the book isn’t on Israel’s judges, it’s on a marriage and the start of a family (Ruth 4:13).

The beginning of the book of 1 Samuel also takes place during the time of the Judges. Samuel was Israel’s last judge before they had a king (1 Sam. 7:15; 8:4-5). The book of 1 Samuel begins with a man, his wife, and their child (1 Sam. 1:1-20).

Some of you who are reading this may be thinking: “Those passages are meant to point us to Christ.” You are absolutely right! These passages do point us to another man (Joseph), his wife (Mary) and their child (Jesus)! These passages, just like all of Scripture, ultimately point to Christ.

But it isn’t a stretch to say that these passages also reinforce the idea that godly families are an important antidote against tyranny.

Do you see any tyranny in your society? If so, do what the Bible does: shift your focus from dysfunctional governments to the family. While we Christians should not abandon other aspects of the society we find ourselves in, we won’t be much of a force for good without building strong, godly families first.

2022-12-31T21:10:12+00:00December 30th, 2022|Categories: Family, Government|Tags: , , |

24 Biblical Principles Applied to the Corona Crisis

The Bible applies to every situation you will ever face. There are several Bible verses and biblical concepts that need to be considered in light of the Covid-19 virus and the response to it. This would include the lockdowns, the effect on the economy, etc. There is actually quite a bit more that could be said, but here are some things for you to consider:

1. God causes bad things.

It is very common in modern churches to hear that God allows bad thing to happen. This isn’t true. The Bible is clear that God causes bad things to happen (Isa. 45:7; Amos 3:6). All viruses, economic hardships, etc., are ultimately from the hand of God.

2. Confusion and fear are God’s judgment.

Some have suggested that this virus is God’s judgment on America and other countries. This may be true (Deut. 28:21), but I think it’s more accurate to say that the response to the virus is God’s judgment. This virus isn’t all that severe. Of course, for some it is. In fact, for some, it can be deadly. But, all in all, this is by no means even close to the most deadly thing out there.

The Bible does say that confusion and fear are also part of God’s judgment (Deut. 28:20, 28; Lev. 26:36). This, I believe, is more of a judgment than the virus.

3. Fear God, not people or things.

Did you know that fear can be a sin? It indeed can be (Rev. 21:8). Fear leads us to obey the thing that we are afraid of. If we fear men more than we fear God, we will obey men rather than God. Jesus was clear: don’t fear those who can kill us, but rather, fear God (Matt. 10:28). This doesn’t mean that we should do foolish things, or tempt God (Matt. 4:5-7), but neither can our lives be marked by fear.

4. Science apart from the word of God is bad.

Science is the process of trying to learn things by observation. Science is a wonderful tool that God has given us to learn about our world. However, true science must be connected to the word of God. If science runs contrary to the Bible, then the science must be assumed to be wrong, not God’s word.

This current virus, and all viruses, were caused by placing science (observation) over the word of God. All sicknesses are the result of Adam & Eve’s sin. Their sin was rooted in the fact that they trusted their eyes (observation), and a self-proclaimed expert (Satan), over what God had said (Gen. 3:2-6).

We are getting so many different “scientific” opinions on the nature of this virus and what our response should be. How do you know which of these medical opinions to trust? The ones that are the most in line with the Bible are going to be the most accurate.

5. The real death rate for those with Covid-19.

There has been much talk about what the actual death rate of this virus is. Some say the numbers of deaths are being inflated. Though I expect this to be the case, I can’t prove it. However, even if we use the official numbers, the death rate is still far below other causes of death (heart disease comes to mind, or even higher still: abortion). We’ve never taken such drastic measures against heart disease, so why are we so terrified of this? Proverbs 28:1 comes to mind.

But in another sense, I do know exactly what the death rate is for those who contract Covid-19. It’s 100%! Everyone who gets this virus will die at some point. Everyone who doesn’t get this virus will also die at some point. Death is a part of life. You shouldn’t seek it, but neither should we act like we can avoid it. God can take you out at any time, whether or not you have Covid-19. You will die, and you will face your Maker (Heb. 9:27). Are you sure you’re going to heaven? You can be (John 3:16; Rom 6:23).

6. Quarantine laws.

The Bible actually does have something to say about quarantining the sick. These laws are in Leviticus, so many Christians don’t know about them, but they are there (Lev. 13-14). In the Bible, the sick are the ones to be quarantined, not the healthy. Some may say that because the current virus is contagious even when an infected person isn’t having any symptoms, everyone should be locked down. I would just note that we really don’t know for sure what the “leprosy” in Leviticus 13-14 was. It could be that this ancient disease was contagious before symptoms appeared. And yet, God would still only have us quarantine the sick. I would also note that the flu is contagious before a person has symptoms, and we don’t quarantine the whole population during flu season, even though many die from it as well.

7. You were made to live on planet earth.

God made you to live on this planet (Gen. 1). True, this earth is under the curse of sin, but we are designed to handle the viruses, bacteria, etc., that also inhabit this world. Most of the time (though not always) our bodies can fight diseases, if we give them what they need to do that.

8. Health comes from God (through your lifestyle).

All good gifts come from God (James 1:17). Ultimately, He is the source of health (3 John 2). The healthiness of a society is somewhat dependent on their obedience to God (Exo. 15:26; Deut. 28:21-22). One of the means through which God gives the gift of health is by us living a lifestyle that God prescribes (Prov. 3:7-8; 4:20-22).

9. We are told to work.

God made man, then He put him to work (Gen. 2:7, 15). We are commanded to work (Exo. 20:9). Any response to this virus should do all that it can to allow people to work. I realize that in some cases that may not be possible, but in most cases where people were forbidden to work, they could have continued working without endangering others. Our government officials could have done much better by being less restrictive.

10. We are told to provide for our families.

God has some harsh things to say to those who choose not to provide for their families (1 Tim. 5:8). Again, the lockdowns that were perpetrated by our government officials were way too severe, and needlessly (and I would add, callously) prohibited people from providing for their families. God forbids taking away a person’s livelihood (Deut. 24:6).

11. God commanded us to proclaim the gospel and disciple the nations.

This is our mission (Matt. 28:18-20; Mark 16:15). The lockdowns have been an impediment to this mission. Kudos to those who have found ways to obey the Great Commission in creative ways at this unusual time, but for the most part, the actions of our governments have been more of a hindrance than a help to the church’s mission.

12. We are commanded to assemble.

We are not to forsake the assembling of God’s people (Heb. 10:25). We are to “come together” (1 Cor. 11:33; 14:23). There may be some instances where assembling as a church may temporarily not be a good idea. But, closing church buildings for months over a sickness that for about 99% of people isn’t fatal, is not a good reason to forsake assembling. If someone is sick, or has a compromised immune system, they should stay away from the gathering of the saints for a time, not everyone else.

13. Facebook isn’t assembling.

I’m not opposed to technology because the Bible isn’t opposed to it. Facebook, Zoom, etc., can be useful tools. But, these tools should never be considered a replacement for actually meeting together. “Meeting” online is not the best way to “meet.” We can utilize communication technologies, but face to face meetings are best (2 John 12; 3 John 13-14).

14. Holy kiss.

There was a cultural practice in the early church to greet one another with a kiss (Rom. 16:16; 1 Cor. 16:20). While this practice may not have to be done today exactly the way it was in those days, the principle of being (appropriately) affectionate in our relationships with one another is, I believe, still something that God would have us do. And, it could actually be healthy for you. “We need closer interactions with other humans, because that exchange of microbes is important for your immune system,” says Kiran Krishnan, a microbiologist and chief scientific officer for Microbiome Labs.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you should go around licking people who are sick. But to think, as the health experts and news media are suggesting, that even standing within 6ft. of a healthy person is going to lead to death is going a bit overboard.

15. Elderly dying from despair.

There is an interesting story out of Mexico. At a state run hospital, the patients in the Covid ward were not allowed visits from their family, and the nurses there weren’t supposed to have much contact with those patients either. One nurse said that most of the patients in that ward seem to “die of sadness.” This nurse began defying the rules and began actually caring for those patients, even letting these elderly patients communicate with their families over video. Conditions in that ward subsequently improved.

God made us in such a way that we need other people. We are built for relationships. At least in that hospital in Mexico, the “care” that the medical experts prescribed was actually doing more harm.

16. Can’t preach the gospel to the dying.

Everyone is going to die and face the judgment (Heb. 9:27). While everyone needs to hear the gospel, those who are nearest death have a more urgent need to hear the good news. There has been a longstanding tradition in Christendom to go to those who are dying and give them the gospel. How many people in history have been born spiritually even as they were dying physically? Yet, the way things are being handled with this virus, those with the good news are not allowed to be with those who need it the most.

17. The civil government is God’s minister.

The job of the government is to serve God. Romans 13 calls it God’s “minister” (v. 4). The civil government, like other ministers, must obey God. If the pastor of a church was demanding that his congregation rob banks to fund that church, or engage in communal fornication, would that minister be a good one? Should he be obeyed? Wouldn’t that church (hopefully) get a new pastor?

So it is with the government. If government officials command what God has forbidden, or forbid what God has commanded, they are no longer functioning as God’s minister, and therefore are not be obeyed and are to be replaced with government officials that will act as God’s minister.

18. Interposition.

The doctrine of interposition (and the “doctrine of the lesser magistrate”) teaches that tyrants can, and even should, be resisted. A lower magistrate (like a mayor, sheriff, etc.) can interpose himself between a higher magistrate (such as a king or governor) and the people the higher magistrate is trying to tyrannize. Also, an individual can interpose between a tyrant and the object of their tyranny. The church, likewise, can resist the civil government if they are trying to do things that are the church’s responsibility.

Examples in the Bible are numerous, including: Exo. 1:15-21; 1 Sam. 14:44-45; 2 Chron. 26:16-20; etc. It is interesting that some in California, of all places, have declared that they will not go along with the unlawful orders of their governor. Some sheriffs have said they won’t enforce those orders, and many pastors have stated they will disobey those orders if their churches aren’t allowed to open by a certain date. Who would have thought that some Californians would be more liberty minded than some of the more “conservative” states?

19. Snitching.

Many bad governments want their citizens to “snitch” on others who follow their (unlawful) orders. In the Bible, if someone is violating God’s law and committing a sin that is also a crime, then the people have the duty to report that person. However, when the government is acting unjustly, those who report others to the government are condemned. One such example is David and Doeg. David was being unjustly pursued by Saul. Doeg ratted him out to the government (1 Sam. 22:6-9). How does God view this “snitch”? Not very highly. In Psalm 52, this is what God says about Doeg’s snitching: “You love evil more than good…God shall destroy you forever…”

20. WHO and the UN.

Jesus was given authority over all the nations (Ps. 2; Matt. 28:18-20; Rev. 2:26-27). Any person, or group of people, who pretend to have authority over the nations are attempting to dethrone Christ. That is an obvious no-no. The United Nations is one such organization. It is the duty of every Christian to oppose the UN and any group connected with them, like the World Health Organization.

21. Fiat money.

In order to save our crashing economy, the Federal Reserve is creating more money out of thin air. God condemns those who increase the money supply by creating money out of worthless materials. “Nothing” isn’t worth very much. In Isaiah 1:22-23, people were making money out of “dross” (worthless metals). God calls this theft, and this is one of the reasons He destroyed His own people. America won’t fare any better, unless we repent.

22. You don’t define loving your neighbor.

In the Bible, loving God is defined, not as by having certain feelings for Him, but by obeying Him (John 14:15; 1 John 5:3). Likewise, loving our neighbor is defined as obeying God’s commands (2 John 5-6). In other words, if you are “loving” your neighbor in ways that are contrary to God’s commands, then you aren’t really loving them, no matter how you feel about them. “Love” that isn’t rooted in God’s word isn’t love.

23. You’re not receiving prophecies that Jesus is coming soon.

This crisis has sparked a new emphasis on Christ’s return, and many are claiming to receive dreams and prophecies that reveal the second coming is going to happen soon. These supposed revelations are in clear contradiction to Scripture.

Jesus is now seated at the right hand of the Father, ruling and reigning (Eph. 1:20-21). He is going to be on that heavenly throne until His enemies are made His footstool (1 Cor. 15:24-26; Heb. 10:12-13). In other words, He’s not leaving heaven to return to earth until His enemies are subdued. Those enemies include rebellious nations (Ps. 2). We have been given responsibilities in this nation-subduing mission as well (Matt. 28:18-20). Look around you. Are Christ’s enemies subdued? They’re not, so we’ve probably got a long way to go before His return.

24. God is building His kingdom through this.

Hebrews 12:27-28 gives us a principle: God shakes things up from time to time in order to bring down things that are opposed to His kingdom (Heb. 12:27). This “shaking” clears the ground for His unshakable kingdom to grow (Heb. 12:27-28). Clearly, this virus, or rather the response to it, has shaken things up. This shaking can be rough to live through, but with faith, we can rejoice that God is building His kingdom even as He’s bringing down the kingdoms of man.

How are you going to respond to this shaking (and the ones to come)? Will you be sad when the wicked institutions that the ungodly have built come crumbling down? Will you hunker down and wait for God to rescue you? Or, will you get busy doing what God has called you to do? Now’s the time for building and fighting, not retreating (Nehemiah 4:14, 17).

2020-06-01T20:49:19+00:00June 1st, 2020|Categories: Church, Eschatology, Family, Government, Money, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , |

Obtaining a Wife by Rape? What the Bible Really Says

I have recently heard both Muslims and atheists claim that the Bible promotes rape. They say that, according to the Bible, you could actually obtain a wife by raping an unmarried woman. If you catch her and rape her, then you get to marry her. The Bible verses that supposedly teach this are found in Deuteronomy 22:28-29.

If a man finds a young woman who is a virgin…and he seizes her and lies with [has sex with] her…she shall be his wife…” (NKJV)

Unfortunately, most modern Christians ignore the OT, and therefore, they may not even know this passage exists, much less know what it is actually teaching. Neither this passage, nor any other passage in the Bible, promotes rape. There are several clues in the rest of the Bible, and even in this passage itself, which show that it is not talking about rape.

Clue #1. The word “seized.” The verses before our passage (Deut. 22:25-27) are talking about rape, and in this case the man “forces” the woman and lies with her. The word “forces” is the Hebrew word “chazaq.” In this case, the man who “forces” a betrothed woman and lies with her – that man gets the death penalty (v. 25).

But what about the man who “seizes” a woman in v. 28? Why doesn’t he get the death penalty? Because, in this verse, the man isn’t committing rape. The word “seize” is the Hebrew word “taphas.” This word can be used for playing a musical instrument (Gen. 4:21), handling the law of God (Jer. 2:8), handling farm tools (Jer. 50:16), etc. The word means to handle or manipulate. Sometimes it implies using force, but often it does not.

Clue #2. Parallel passages. The name Deuteronomy literally means “second law” (i.e., the second reading of the law). So, in order to gain more insight into what this law in Deuteronomy means, we have to look at the first time this law was given. This law was first given in Exodus 22:16-17.

If a man entices a virgin…and lies with her…[she can] be his wife…” (NKJV)

Here, in Exodus, the man enticed (seduced) the woman. This is what Deut. 22:28 is talking about: the “seizing” (or taking hold of) is seducing, not rape.

Clue #3. The passage itself shows it is not speaking of rape. If anyone reading Deut. 22:28-29 would back up and read the verses prior to it (vv. 23-27), they would see that the man who is seducing this woman is not raping her. This fornication is consensual.

Verses 23–24 are about a consensual affair. It is deemed consensual because the woman “did not cry out” (i.e., she didn’t object).

Verses 25-27 are talking about a rape. In these verses the woman “cried out.” She objected, but was forced against her will.

When we get to verses 28-29 (our supposed rape-to-get-a-wife passage), there is no mention of the young lady “crying out.” This implies she was a willing participant in this fornication. Verse 28 also says that “they” were found out. This again implies that both were consenting to this sin of fornication. In this case, when both the man and the woman commit this sin of fornication, the man must marry the woman, if the woman’s father agrees. And this brings us to our next clue.

Clue #4. The father’s veto. In the passage that is the parallel to our passage (Ex. 22:16-17), the man who seduces a woman must then pay a fine (see also Deut. 22:29), and then he must marry that woman. There is no “love them and leave them” in God’s law. If you are going to have sex, you also have to take responsibility for your actions.

However, the father of the woman could refuse to give his daughter to the man (Ex. 22:17; the man would still have to pay the fine). This also shows that this passage, and Deut. 22:28-29 is not talking about rape. I don’t have a daughter, but if I did, I may give her to a young man with whom she committed fornication. Of course, my hope would be that she wouldn’t do that, but if it happened, and the man was an otherwise upstanding man, and a Christian, and generally responsible, I would consider letting him marry my daughter. If my daughter doesn’t want to marry this guy, I’m going to tell this man “no.” After all, I have more love for my daughter than I have for him.

But if he rapes my daughter, not only would I never allow him to marry her, but he’d better hope the police catch him before I do! Because if I do, there won’t be anything left of him for my daughter to marry!

Those Muslims and atheists who criticize the Bible have it wrong. The Bible doesn’t promote rape. The Bible sometimes records rape happening, but that doesn’t mean that God condones it; it is simply saying that the rape happened. There is nothing in Scripture that says that a rapist gets to marry his victim. Anyone who says so has probably never really studied the Bible.

God’s law is perfect (Ps. 19:7) and I love it (Ps. 119:97). Do you?

2019-05-31T22:17:37+00:00May 31st, 2019|Categories: Family, Theology|Tags: , , |

Seven Ideas For Rebuilding the Family

The state of the family in the United States is at an all time low. In the early 1800’s, a bunch of ungodly people began to set plans in motion that were designed to weaken the family. By the 1880’s or so, the opposition to their plans was all but gone. We have come a long way (down) since then. The family needs to be restored to its biblical pattern. What follows is not exhaustive by any means, but it will hopefully give you some things to think about. Here are seven areas of the family that could use rebuilding.

1. The way Christians get married. Many have noted the high divorce rate among professing Christians. While there are several factors as to why this is, part of the problem has to do with the way in which we go about getting to the marriage altar. The dating pattern that most Christians are familiar with does not come from the Bible. The world’s pattern is getting romantically involved with someone in order to “try them out,” and then repeating this process over and over again until you find the right one. This is usually done with very little input from the parents of those involved.

When someone is of the age to be married, the biblical pattern is for an authority figure (usually the father) to oversee the “courtship” process. This is to protect the purity of those involved, but also to give wise advice to the ones seeking to get married. The decision of whom you’ll marry is major one. Don’t make that decision alone, and don’t let your children make that decision alone. For more on the biblical pattern for choosing a spouse and the problems associated with dating, see our book “The Biblical Pattern for Choosing a Spouse.”

2. The role of husbands and fathers. In Christian circles, we tell men that they need to be the leader of their family. The problem is, most don’t even know what that means! Don’t think that putting food on the table and taking your family to church means that you’ve done your duty. One helpful way to look at the role of the man in the family is to see him as the prophet, priest, and king of the home.

He is a prophet, not because he foretells the future, but because he teaches God’s word to his family. In the Bible, the majority of commands dealing with the discipleship/education of children are given to fathers. I think a case can be made from Scripture that the husband also has a role in discipling his wife as well.

He is a priest because he is to intercede for his family in prayer.

He is a king in the sense that he is the primary authority in the home. Of course, his authority must be lovingly exercised in submission to God’s authority. A king also has the responsibility to protect those in his care. For fathers, this not only means protecting your family from would-be assailants, but also from ungodly influences that may invade your home through the TV, radio, or internet.

3. The role of wives and mothers. If the husband is the “king” of the home, then the wife is the queen. God has given the wife authority in the home as well. Her authority is not given to her by her husband, but by God. The household is foundational to all of society. Its importance is hard to overestimate. You will not have strong homes if you do not have godly, intelligent, wise, diligent, strong and caring wives and mothers.

This doesn’t mean, of course, that a woman has no role or purpose apart from her household. But it is, regardless of what the feminists say, an honorable and important role. While many modern women seek to be doctors, lawyers, policewomen, or politicians, being a keeper of the home is a much more important job. In fact, in societies where women are skilled in their roles within the family, you’ll need fewer doctors, lawyers, policemen, and politicians!

If all this talk of women being keepers of the home is making you uncomfortable, please go back to point #2. There you’ll see that men also have many responsibilities in the home. And if you look around you, you’ll see that both men and women have fallen short of the Bible’s pattern for home life.

4. Home discipleship/education. Is there anyone on earth who thinks that education is not an important issue? If that person exists, I’ve never met them. Since education is such an important issue, you’d think that maybe God’s word might have something to say about it. It does! There are dozens of commands in Scripture that deal with the education of children (though the word education is not used), and every single one of them is given to parents. There are no commands for the church or the government to educate or disciple children (education and discipleship are the same thing).

This is not to say that children may only be taught by their parents and no one else, but it is to say that parents are to be the primary educators of their children. If Johnny wants to be a rocket surgeon, and you know nothing about rocket surgery, then, of course, you can have someone else teach him about rocket surgery. Just be careful about who you enlist to teach Johnny, lest they undo all that you have taught him.

While the biblical pattern is home/parental education, I realize that not everyone is in a situation where they can have their children with them for the majority of the day. Start doing what you can now, and if possible, change your situation.

5. Fruitfulness. The command to be fruitful and multiply has never been rescinded. One of the ways that the gospel spreads and the Kingdom grows is through God’s people having children (and then discipling them). Many complain about the fact that Muslim population growth is outpacing that of America and Europe. That’s because the Muslims are obeying the Bible and Christians aren’t! The Bible says that children are a blessing, not a burden. And yet, many Christians take pills and get surgeries to make sure that God doesn’t bless them too much.

If you are unable to have children, there are many who need to be adopted. Wouldn’t it be great if atheists or homosexuals had trouble finding children to adopt because the Christians got them all?

It is not a sin to have a small family, but neither should having a large family be seen as a burden. Large families can bring with them unique challenges, but by training your children to pitch in and help out around the house (instead of playing video games), much of these challenges can be alleviated.

6. Family economies. The family is an economic unit. In fact, the word “economics” comes from a word that means “house law,” in other words “the way in which a household is run.” The family business is a good example of a household being an economic unit. Family businesses are mentioned quite often in Scripture. Our Lord even took over the family carpentry business for a time.

And yet, it’s not a sin to be employed by someone else, and there are many godly people in the Bible who weren’t business owners. Even if you don’t have a business that the members of your family can participate in, you can still have a household economy. In fact, you do have a household economy; the question is: how well does it function?

When you have a project around the house, do you hire it out, do it yourself, or have your family help you? The more hands you have helping you, the more time and money you can save. The more time and money you save, the more you and your family can serve God and others. Even if you don’t have a business, maybe your children could have a side business. Not only will they be helping out financially, but they’ll be learning business skills, money management, and whatever skill the job requires. While you shouldn’t think of your children as slaves, it is reasonable (no, make that biblical), to have them be productive members of their families. Even young children can do something to help out.

7. Multigenerational vision. Often, Christians don’t think past the next couple of years, much less the next couple of generations. It should be our goal to see our families walking with the Lord for the next 1,000 years. Of course, there is only so much influence we can have on our families after we die, but we can have some influence.

Communists of all stripes (even before Karl Marx) have always tried to break the connections between one generation and the next. God, on the other hand, wants there to be continuity between the generations. When God’s commands are obeyed, the result will be progressive familial sanctification, which is a fancy way of saying that each successive generation will be more godly than the one before it. I don’t have to tell you that the norm in our day seems to be the opposite. This is partly because Christians aren’t even thinking about passing on the faith to their great-great-great-great-great-great (you get the picture) grandchildren.

One of the more famous passages on family life is Joshua 24:15. In it, Joshua says that his house (family) will serve the LORD. Joshua spoke these words at the end of his life. He assumed that his family would be serving God after he departed. Can you say the same?

2017-03-28T21:27:07+00:00January 16th, 2017|Categories: Family|

How to Raise a Homeschooled Tyrant

I’m a big fan of homeschooling. I believe that of all the forms of “schooling” that are out there, it is the most biblical. But homeschooling in and of itself does not guarantee godly children. This fact can be clearly seen in the life of Solomon’s son Rehoboam as it is recorded in 1 Kings 12.

Every Israelite was commanded to teach their children in their home (Deut. 6:7). Today, a commonly used name for parents educating their children is homeschooling. Solomon took seriously the command to educate his children, and even wrote a book to teach his children how to live a godly life. We call that book the book of Proverbs.

Proverbs was written as instruction to all of Solomon’s children (Prov. 4:1), but primarily it was written to his son (1:8, 10, 15; 2:1; 3:1; 5:1; etc.). This means that the book of Proverbs was written to Rehoboam, and yet, Solomon’s instruction to his son doesn’t seem to have had much effect. When Rehoboam becomes king of Israel, the people ask him to be a less oppressive king than his father Solomon was (1 Kings 12:4). He refuses, and unwisely promises to be an oppressive tyrant (v. 14). What happened?

There could be many reasons as to why Rehoboam became the man that he did, but I believe the Bible gives us some hints as to a few of those reasons.

First, it should be noted that even perfect parents can have sinful children. Adam & Eve had the perfect Father, and yet they still rebelled. That being said, there are some things that parents often do that may cultivate or encourage sinfulness in their children. We see a couple of those things in the case of Solomon’s son Rehoboam.

One of those things is not being careful about the influence of peers on children. Though the Bible may not specifically say “thou shall not allow your children to hang out with a bad peer group,” the principle is clearly taught in Scripture.

Young people are usually not as wise as older people. In fact, it is said that “foolishness is bound in the heart of a child” (Prov. 22:15). Since a student is going to be like his teacher (Luke 6:40), and the ones you spend the most time with are the ones you learn the most from, a young person who spends the majority of his or her time with other young people will not grow out of this “foolish” phase. They will have a hard time fleeing youthful lusts (2 Tim. 2:22) and putting away childish things (1 Cor. 13:11).

A companion of fools will end up in big trouble (Prov. 13:20). There is an account in the Bible where a group of unsupervised youth did something foolish and were destroyed because of it (2 Kings 2:23-24). That group of youths decided to mock a man of God, and were mauled by two bears!

Just by looking back at your own childhood you can probably see that these things are so. Think of the times when you did foolish things and got in trouble as a result. Did those times happen when you were with wise adults or with a group of peers who were as immature as you were?

We see this principle being played out in the life of Rehoboam as well. He did not listen to the wise advice of the older counselors who advised his father, but listened to the younger guys he had grown up with (1 Kings 12:8). They were obviously fools, because they gave him foolish advice (vv. 10-11). Rehoboam took their advice and lost most of his kingdom because of it (vv. 16-24).

I cannot prove that Rehoboam spent more time with his peers than with his father, but that seems likely since his heart trusted his peers more than his father. I also think that Solomon was much to blame for that.

Solomon asked Rehoboam to give him his heart (Prov. 23:26), but Rehoboam’s heart was more loyal to his peers. The last half of Prov. 23:26 gives us a clue as to why that was the case. Solomon says “give me your heart, and observe my ways.” The problem was that when Rehoboam observed his father, he saw a hypocrite. Though Solomon had much wisdom early in his life, he quickly fell into the folly of sin.

Deuteronomy 17 gives us the rules that Israel’s kings must abide by (vv. 14-20). Many of these rules were broken by Solomon. Verse 16 says that kings are not to have a multitude of horses, and they are especially not to go to Egypt for their horses. Solomon had a multitude of horses (1 Kings 4:26). And where did he get some of those horses? From Egypt (1 Kings 10:28). In verse 17 of Deuteronomy 17, we are told that kings may not multiply wives to themselves. Solomon is the most infamous wife multiplier in history (1 Kings 11:3). Also in Deut. 17:17, kings are told not to have a multitude of silver and gold. Solomon actually didn’t have a multitude of silver, but that was because he had so much gold that silver became worthless (1 Kings 10:14-21).

Solomon told his son to observe his ways. When Rehoboam did, he saw a man who spoke a lot about wisdom and godly living, but who didn’t live it out. It appears as though Solomon repented later in life (compare Eccl. 2:1-8 and 12:13-14), but by then he had already lost his son’s heart.

He who has an ear, let him hear.

2017-01-03T18:15:43+00:00November 28th, 2016|Categories: Family|

Best Youth Program Ever!

   Does God care about the discipleship of youth and children? If so, do you think He would tell us how to best disciple them, or would He keep that information to Himself? If He did decide to share with us the best method of youth/children’s discipleship, how would He do that?

   I firmly believe that God does care about youth and children. I also believe that God is smarter than we are, and therefore His methods are better than anything that we could invent. Furthermore, I believe that God has chosen to tell us how to disciple youth and children, and that He reveals those methods in His word.

   When God led His people out of Egypt to start a new nation, the nation of Israel, He gave them laws which, if obeyed, would ensure that their nation would be godly and prosperous. In Deuteronomy 6, God gives His people the greatest commandment: “Love the LORD…with all your heart….”(v. 5). This law (and others) was to be taught by parents to their “children…when you sit in your house,…walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.” (v. 7). This command is repeated in Deut. 11:19. In Deut. 32:46-47, God’s people are told to set their hearts on obeying God’s word, and to teach their children to do the same. Loving God and teaching your children to do the same is “not a vain thing for you…it is your life…” (v. 47). The command in Deut. 6:7 gives us the who, what, when, where, and how of discipling youth and children:

Who: This command is clearly given to the parents, “you shall teach…your children” This is not the only command given to parents to disciple/teach/educate their children. In fact, every command in Scripture to disciple children is given to the parents. There are no commands given to the state (government) or even to the church to disciple children. God has given that role to parents.

What: The word “them” in verse 7, refers to the “words” of verse 6. This was the word/law of God. The curriculum that parents are to use in training their children is the word of God. This does not mean however that parents are only to teach “spiritual” things to their children. Remember that the word of God speaks to every area of life, not just the “spiritual” things (Ps. 119:128, 2 Tim. 3:16-17). If you want your children to be smarter than “the ancients” like Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle, teach them the word of God (Ps. 119:97-100). The Bible is not simply one subject that should be taught, but rather it is the foundation for understanding all other subjects. There is a biblical view of history and there is a secular view. It’s the same way with biology, economics, civics, and even grammar.

When: According to Deut. 6:7, the discipleship of children takes place every minute of every day, when you are sitting in your house, when you are out and about, when you lie down, and when you rise up. This verse not only tells us what should be, but it also tells us what is. Not only should your children be discipled throughout the day, they are being discipled throughout the day. Your children are constantly being taught by what they hear and the things they see. Every textbook they read, every peer they hang out with, every song they listen to, and everything they watch on TV, is discipling them.

Where: Since children are to be discipled primarily by their parents, we would think that much of that discipleship would take place in the home. That is exactly what we see in Deut. 6:7, “you shall teach…your children…in your house”. But we also see that you are to teach your children “when you walk by the way”. Though the home is an important place in relation to the discipleship of youth and children, one goal of this discipleship is to train your children to be able to function in society. Likewise, when you go out from the home, take your children with you so that they can learn how adults do things in the real world.

How: The method of discipleship given to us here has been termed by some as the “walk along/talk along” or “relational” method. While there is a place for a “lecture” type of teaching (like preaching a sermon), much of the discipleship we see in scripture is done in a walk along/talk along manner. You spend time with and invest your life in the one you are teaching. They go with you wherever you go so that they can learn by your example. Most of what we learn is “caught” rather than “taught”. But as you go, you are to talk to your children and explain how God’s law/word applies to every area of life. This is the method used by Jesus to disciple His disciples. He didn’t start a university or seminary, He invested His life in them. They went with Him wherever He went, and as they went, He talked to them about how to live for God.

   Jesus Himself was educated in this manner. Though in one sense He needed no education (He is God, and God already knows everything), in another sense He had to grow in wisdom (Luke 2:52). It seems as though Jesus was educated by His earthy father Joseph. Jesus was a carpenter (Mark 6:3) and it was likely that He was taught this work by His earthly father (Matt. 13:55). Furthermore, the Pharisees made note of the fact that Jesus had not gone to school (John 7:15). How then did Jesus know so much? Why, He had also been discipled by His heavenly Father, of course (John 7:16)! God the Father spoke to His Son, that is how Jesus learned (John 8:28; 12:49-50; 15:15). This is the “talk along” part of discipleship.

   God the Father also had a “walk along” relationship with His Son. Father and Son were working together (John 5:17). The Father loves the Son and so He shows the Son everything that He does (5:20). The Son watches what His Father does, and then follows His Father’s example (5:19). This Father/Son, teaching/learning relationship that Jesus had with His heavenly Father was the same kind of relationship spoken of in Deut. 6:7.

   This is God’s “youth program”. It is far superior to anything that the world or even the church has invented. Is it difficult? Yes. Is it time consuming? Yes. Is it at times a frustrating, heart-breaking endeavor? Yes. But by God’s grace it can be done, and it should be done. It is the best youth program ever.

2016-05-03T22:46:35+00:00May 3rd, 2016|Categories: Church, Family|
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